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A Physical and Emotional Miscarriage

A friend of mine faced a failed adoption. She had not only seen pictures of her child, but she had held her in her arms, smelled her, cuddled her, rocked her. What she experienced emotionally could easily be compared to the grief faced in a mid-to-late term miscarriage. Recently, my newest grandson was born at 20 weeks, lived 34 minutes, then died. I understand grief and loss.

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Dear Future Adoptive Parents

Originally posted on barrentoblessed:
Dear Future Adoptive Parents, Hello.  I’m not sure what to say except that I hope you want me as bad as I want you.  I need you to need me.  I know that sounds silly, coming from a kid and all, but if I were to be completely honest, I would tell…

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Seeing Red?

Is the red tape of the adoption process making you wait? Sometimes hearing about how others survived the red tape provides strength for the journey.

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Reminders

Mother’s Day can be a difficult day (season) for the woman waiting for a child. It can make the waiting of the paper pregnancy especially emotional this time of year.

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Shedding Light on Timing

This Beth Moore quote on God’s timing and my attitude is something I wish I had seen during our adoption waiting. Many times during our decade-long journey of waiting for our daughter I struggled with God’s timing. God is outside of time. He sees the big picture. Sometimes we only see in hindsight,,,

2013 in review

The WordPress.com stats helper monkeys prepared a 2013 annual report for this blog. Here’s an excerpt: A New York City subway train holds 1,200 people. This blog was viewed about 4,700 times in 2013. If it were a NYC subway train, it would take about 4 trips to carry that many people. Attractions in 2013…

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Grand: In the eye of the beholder

My daughter took this self-portrait a few years ago. She definitely takes unique photos. What is extra stunning about this particular photo is that my daughter lost her right eye to cancer as an infant, so for her, a self-portrait focuses in on the eye she sees with. Here are three more pictures from her perspective…

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Screaming Inside

There are some things that an adopted child goes through at some point of the journey regardless of the adoption age. Dealing with a child’s grief and loss. “He held her tightly against himself . . . with her flailing and screaming. Any child would have …

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Exactly the Right One

“Of all the things Melissa had said, the thing that stood out most was to stop asking if this little girl was the right girl for our family and start asking if we could be the right family for this little girl.” God knew before she was born that we were the right family.