How long is it reasonable to wait for something you want? Have we forgotten the value, wisdom, and lessons learned in persevering and waiting?
A friend of mine faced a failed adoption. She had not only seen pictures of her child, but she had held her in her arms, smelled her, cuddled her, rocked her. What she experienced emotionally could easily be compared to the grief faced in a mid-to-late term miscarriage. Recently, my newest grandson was born at 20 weeks, lived 34 minutes, then died. I understand grief and loss.
When on the adoption journey (or raising an adopted child) an iceberg provides a perfect picture of there being more than what you initially see. . . adjustments, meltdowns, behaviors, baggage, language learning, challenges.
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Dear Future Adoptive Parents, Hello. I’m not sure what to say except that I hope you want me as bad as I want you. I need you to need me. I know that sounds silly, coming from a kid and all, but if I were to be completely honest, I would tell…
On days and weeks when the waiting seems unbearable, times when adoption seems like an unreachable obsession, on rainy days and Mondays — some real things you can do to find the hope and strength to hang on.
“I can’t wait to be paper pregnant for nine years!” — said no adoptive parent ever. But the process of waiting may just be a very important part of the journey.
Clay Crosse and his wife Renee are no strangers to adoption. During our nearly decade-long journey of adoption, I faced a period of time of needing to surrender my desire for a daughter to the Lord.
Is the red tape of the adoption process making you wait? Sometimes hearing about how others survived the red tape provides strength for the journey.
Mothers’ Day can be an especially challenging time for those who have been waiting (and continue to wait) for a child . . . whether they are in the long journey of adopting a child or trying to get pregnant.
Mother’s Day often arrives packed with emotion. Our little princess breathes new meaning of Mother’s Day into our lives. On this special dayPrincess in waiting each year, I must recognize my daughter has a need I can never fill.
Mother’s Day can be a difficult day (season) for the woman waiting for a child. It can make the waiting of the paper pregnancy especially emotional this time of year.
This Beth Moore quote on God’s timing and my attitude is something I wish I had seen during our adoption waiting. Many times during our decade-long journey of waiting for our daughter I struggled with God’s timing. God is outside of time. He sees the big picture. Sometimes we only see in hindsight,,,
As often as I must hear the children around me sing the song “Let it Go,” I couldn’t help but write my own parody based on our adoption journey. Some of you (especially those still on your journeys) may be able to relate to this adoptive parent’s parody of Idina Menzel’s song Let It Go.
Are you on Pinterest? Do you pin adoption-related pictures? Are you going through a paper pregnancy? Here are my adoption-related Pinterest Boards:pinterest
When your journey is long or challenging or full of obstacles, what is the Velcro in your life that helps you hang on and not give up? Here are 4 tips for surviving long journeys (adoption or otherwise).
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Joy is greatest when it follows the toughest trials. For a decade I prayed and cried over this verse: “Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning.” Psalm 30:5. I asked God when the night would be over and the morning come.
Christmas, adoption, and George Dennehy’s song “Have My Heart.” Christmas and adoption kind of go hand-in-hand.
My daughter took this self-portrait a few years ago. She definitely takes unique photos. What is extra stunning about this particular photo is that my daughter lost her right eye to cancer as an infant, so for her, a self-portrait focuses in on the eye she sees with. Here are three more pictures from her perspective…
The Psalmists just told God exactly how they were feeling. The good, the bad, the ugly. Then, they turned around and praised God through all of it.
Media kit for Delana H. Stewart and Nine Year Pregnancy: Waiting on God–Our Journey of Adoption — published by CrossBooks Christian Publishing Company, a division of LifeWay.
Check out what Prospective Adoptive Parents, Moms, Dads, Grandparents, Authors, Magazine Editors, and Journalists are saying about Nine Year Pregnancy.
There are some things that an adopted child goes through at some point of the journey regardless of the adoption age. Dealing with a child’s grief and loss. “He held her tightly against himself . . . with her flailing and screaming. Any child would have …
Many churches will talk about the many orphans around the world (and in our own country) who are in need of being welcomed into a loving family. The question remains, what are people doing about it? I hope many families will consider adopting a waiting child into their family. No longer an orphan!
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“Of all the things Melissa had said, the thing that stood out most was to stop asking if this little girl was the right girl for our family and start asking if we could be the right family for this little girl.” God knew before she was born that we were the right family.