Transitions . . . change . . . moves . . . are difficult for any of us, but they can be particularly overwhelming to the older adopted child.
A decade of waiting and information and preparation still did not prepare me for the day-to-day realities of the first few years with an older adopted child. Yet, I still wish someone had pointed me to some of these resources earlier!
“Cast your bread upon the waters, for after many days you will find it again.” Ecclesiastes 11:1 This verse reminds me of the need to keep pouring love into our children. The love we pour in will eventually pour out on others and come back to us as well.
When on the adoption journey (or raising an adopted child) an iceberg provides a perfect picture of there being more than what you initially see. . . adjustments, meltdowns, behaviors, baggage, language learning, challenges.
“Valentine’s Day came and one of the most special Valentine’s of all—an e-mail from Sadie with a picture of the little girl and more information. Sweet and spicy! From that moment, I began to carry her picture in a silver heart locket…
What to Expect the First Year After Adopting; What about when adopting a child older than 1? What are some things you can expect in that first year?
Prepare Emotionally to Parent an Adopted Child. Using Lesli Johnson’s list of 10 things adoptees want you to know, here are a few things I learned and shared in my book Nine Year Pregnancy: Adoptees want…
Keys to Parenting an Adopted Child — “A common rule of thumb is that parents should expect the same number of years to pass for a child to become unadjusted to past influences as the child’s age when he entered the home. If you adopt a ten year old, for example, expect it to take approximately ten years to balance past influences.”
There has been a saying going around Facebook about family not always being blood. Many relate to this in terms of close friendships. Others relate to it because of adoption. In terms of adoption, I decided the saying needed to even be more specific. So I personalized it.
Five years ago this very day, a nine-year pregnancy and a year of labor and delivery ended, and the birth of a daughter into our family began. . . . The years our daughter has been in our home are like the months a premature infant spends in NICU. Older adopted children and their families need support that goes beyond what the non-adoptive family needs.
–by: Delana H. Stewart After all the paperwork and all the waiting, the first day, weeks, and months are often not what one would expect. Rather than bubbling over with joy, you may be more tired and exhausted than you have ever felt. After a challenging first day and evening with our daughter, I expressed…
Got’cha day photos were not high enough quality to be included in the photos in the book, so I will post some here from time to time. This picture was taken our first few hours together.
On the Adoptive Families “30 Ways to Celebrate National Adoption Month 2011” calendar, they suggested “Make an effort to help someone who is considering adoption. If you’re a parent, tell them about the highs, the lows, the unforgettable moments. Tell them why you’d do it all over again!”
In my book Nine Year Pregnancy: Waiting on God–Our Journey of Adoption, I talk about this very concept.