When the adoption journey is long how do you go about surviving the wait? From the author of Nine Year Pregnancy.
Holidays (particularly Christmas) can be some of the most difficult days during the “paper pregnancy” or waiting stage of Christmas, You hope…you pray…you wait for a miracle. Songs of kids waiting for a home for Christmas (as beautiful as the songs are) often bring tears to the eyes of the parents waiting.
How long is it reasonable to wait for something you want? Have we forgotten the value, wisdom, and lessons learned in persevering and waiting?
“Paper Pregnancy” and Adoption. What might seem self-explanatory to some, might require explanation for others. Paper Pregnancy: having a child developing in the heart while completing a ton of paperwork, experiencing long waits and many hoops, and sometimes facing roadblocks or closed doors (read labor) in order for that child to be delivered into your arms. Want to know the first time that term was used online?
On days and weeks when the waiting seems unbearable, times when adoption seems like an unreachable obsession, on rainy days and Mondays — some real things you can do to find the hope and strength to hang on.
Mothers’ Day can be an especially challenging time for those who have been waiting (and continue to wait) for a child . . . whether they are in the long journey of adopting a child or trying to get pregnant.
When your journey is long or challenging or full of obstacles, what is the Velcro in your life that helps you hang on and not give up? Here are 4 tips for surviving long journeys (adoption or otherwise).
You want a child and don’t have one yet. Another friend invites you to a baby shower. You struggle emotionally and can’t seem to feel happy for her. Is it okay to feel angry?
When I wrote Nine Year Pregnancy I unknowingly stumbled upon a somewhat controversial analogy of comparing the adoption journey to a pregnancy. Some refer to this using the term paper pregnancy.
My Paper Pregnancy Journal: A place for you to tell your adoption story with insights to guide you on your journey has arrived in time for you to bless a friend, family member, or yourself for the upcoming holiday. Telling your adoption story is an important part of the journey. And here is a book to help you do just that!
With prompts, quotes, inspiration, and lined pages all in one place to write about your adoption journey,
While many people find the term paper pregnancy to be a sweet sentiment or fitting comparison between adoption and pregnancy, others are flat out offended by the term and the comparison. Is paper pregnancy an offensive term to you?
Many people these days compare the stages of adoption to the stages of pregnancy. The term they use is paper pregnancy. While there are a lot of similarities between the two, the differences are huge. Some people even take offense to the comparison. What about you?
—By: Delana H. Stewart Just read an article about a family whose adoption wait is finally over! Their journey was a long one, four years. I can relate to long journeys. The father, Mr. Kahler, said something that especially resonated with me: “God is never late, he’s never early, he’s exactly right on time,” Mike…
Will your adoption support group be doing anything special this coming November for Adoption Awareness month? If so, please comment below to let others know. And what stage are you in your paper pregnancy (or how long was yours)? If you are still in the waiting stages here are some tips for you.
7 Tips for the Adoption Journey: Surviving the Wait; When the adoption journey is long, don’t lose sight of the dream! Persistence is key! Stand strong!
In my book Nine Year Pregnancy I talk about parts of the adoption journey as being like Braxton Hicks, regular contractions, and full-blown labor.
”This book is entirely wonderful! The content is thorough, giving people in the waiting lounges of adoption wise advice when planning for the long haul, both practically and emotionally. I especially appreciate your honesty on realistic bonding with older children: it’s rarely instantaneous, and often more of a choice to love versus waiting for a…
Since my book Nine Year Pregnancy has been released, I am often asked the question: “Delana, why did your adoption process take so long?” The short answer is: Because at every seemingly opened door along the way, we prayed, “God, if this is not your plan for us please close this door.” And He did.…
The Stages of “Pregnancy” in Adoption
Just thought I’d let you know that I started a new Facebook page: Adoption and Paper Pregnancy It is a community for those in the adoption process, adoptive parents, and adoptees to share their challenges and joys, tips, good books they’ve read, and encouraging words. Hope you’ll join me there! More articles: What to expect…
On Valentine’s Day 2007, we received this picture of the little girl who would soon become a part of our family. On February 14, 2012, from 1:30-3:30 pm, I will be at the Ed White Elementary School library in El Lago, TX, selling and signing the book about our journey–Nine Year Pregnancy. On February 19,…
Nine Year Pregnancy is now available for download on your iPhone, iPad, or iPod touch with iBooks and on your computer with iTunes. Books must be read on an iOS device. http://itunes.apple.com/us/book/nine-year-pregnancy/id494806975?mt=11
–by: Delana H. Stewart After all the paperwork and all the waiting, the first day, weeks, and months are often not what one would expect. Rather than bubbling over with joy, you may be more tired and exhausted than you have ever felt. After a challenging first day and evening with our daughter, I expressed…
“‘God!’ I prayed. ‘I don’t know that I’ve ever been on a journey where I really needed faith before. I could always see the path just fine. But with this, I truly don’t know where the road will lead. I can only see enough by Your light to take the next little step. And the…
To all of you celebrating this Christmas while still in waiting mode … hang in there! Your paper pregnancy will end, and your child will also be worth the wait! You may also want to read: https://nineyearpregnancy.wordpress.com/2011/11/07/worth-it-all/ http://delanasworld.wordpress.com/2011/10/06/a-season-of-waiting/ https://nineyearpregnancy.wordpress.com/2013/02/04/what-is-a-paper-pregnancy/