Holidays (particularly Christmas) can be some of the most difficult days during the “paper pregnancy” or waiting stage of Christmas, You hope…you pray…you wait for a miracle. Songs of kids waiting for a home for Christmas (as beautiful as the songs are) often bring tears to the eyes of the parents waiting.
Praying, waiting, not giving up…how do we persevere when the answer is wait or not now?
My Paper Pregnancy Journal is a unique adoption journal with prompts, quotes, inspiration, and plenty of lined pages for you to write about your journey! Because a journey is worth…
“Paper Pregnancy” and Adoption. What might seem self-explanatory to some, might require explanation for others. Paper Pregnancy: having a child developing in the heart while completing a ton of paperwork, experiencing long waits and many hoops, and sometimes facing roadblocks or closed doors (read labor) in order for that child to be delivered into your arms. Want to know the first time that term was used online?
A friend of mine faced a failed adoption. She had not only seen pictures of her child, but she had held her in her arms, smelled her, cuddled her, rocked her. What she experienced emotionally could easily be compared to the grief faced in a mid-to-late term miscarriage. Recently, my newest grandson was born at 20 weeks, lived 34 minutes, then died. I understand grief and loss.
On days and weeks when the waiting seems unbearable, times when adoption seems like an unreachable obsession, on rainy days and Mondays — some real things you can do to find the hope and strength to hang on.
“I can’t wait to be paper pregnant for nine years!” — said no adoptive parent ever. But the process of waiting may just be a very important part of the journey.
Is the red tape of the adoption process making you wait? Sometimes hearing about how others survived the red tape provides strength for the journey.
Mothers’ Day can be an especially challenging time for those who have been waiting (and continue to wait) for a child . . . whether they are in the long journey of adopting a child or trying to get pregnant.
Mother’s Day can be a difficult day (season) for the woman waiting for a child. It can make the waiting of the paper pregnancy especially emotional this time of year.
This Beth Moore quote on God’s timing and my attitude is something I wish I had seen during our adoption waiting. Many times during our decade-long journey of waiting for our daughter I struggled with God’s timing. God is outside of time. He sees the big picture. Sometimes we only see in hindsight,,,
As often as I must hear the children around me sing the song “Let it Go,” I couldn’t help but write my own parody based on our adoption journey. Some of you (especially those still on your journeys) may be able to relate to this adoptive parent’s parody of Idina Menzel’s song Let It Go.
When your journey is long or challenging or full of obstacles, what is the Velcro in your life that helps you hang on and not give up? Here are 4 tips for surviving long journeys (adoption or otherwise).
Joy is greatest when it follows the toughest trials. For a decade I prayed and cried over this verse: “Weeping may endure for a night, But joy comes in the morning.” Psalm 30:5. I asked God when the night would be over and the morning come.
The Psalmists just told God exactly how they were feeling. The good, the bad, the ugly. Then, they turned around and praised God through all of it.
Many churches will talk about the many orphans around the world (and in our own country) who are in need of being welcomed into a loving family. The question remains, what are people doing about it? I hope many families will consider adopting a waiting child into their family. No longer an orphan!
Why write while you wait? Most adoptions take at least a year, and some can take many years with failed adoptions along the way. Here are four reasons why I recommend writing while you wait:
Are you in the midst of whirlpools and waves? Sometimes a paper pregnancy can be as overwhelming as the sea.
This week’s Weekly Photo Challenge is Sea–and the emotions it brings to mind.
I know that during our long journey …there were most definitely times of feeling caught in a whirlpool or undertow. Ever feel like you are drowning and might not be able to come up for air?
“Waiting does not diminish us…but the longer we wait, the larger we become…the more joyful our expectancy.” Romans 8 — Read on for stories, poems, encouragement and hope during the wait…
What are you sure of that you do not see? “When the rainbow is delayed and it seems the rain has stayed…”
Are you waiting? Don’t give up! Keep on waiting, trusting, hoping, believing! Love hopes, believes, bears (1 Cor 13). Be persistent, always pray, never give up (Luke 18). Especially for moms-in-waiting…
You want a child and don’t have one yet. Another friend invites you to a baby shower. You struggle emotionally and can’t seem to feel happy for her. Is it okay to feel angry?
When I wrote Nine Year Pregnancy I unknowingly stumbled upon a somewhat controversial analogy of comparing the adoption journey to a pregnancy. Some refer to this using the term paper pregnancy.
My Paper Pregnancy Journal: A Place for you to tell your adoption story is up to number 6 this week on Amazon’s hot new releases list! Check out the look inside feature on Amazon!
“Valentine’s Day came and one of the most special Valentine’s of all—an e-mail from Sadie with a picture of the little girl and more information. Sweet and spicy! From that moment, I began to carry her picture in a silver heart locket…