Transitions . . . change . . . moves . . . are difficult for any of us, but they can be particularly overwhelming to the older adopted child.
In the movie Beauty and the Beast, Belle must overcome her fear of the beast in order to not only free her father but to also set the Beast free. In life, sometimes the beasts we face are our own fears, such as the fears of failure, pain, suffering, death, heartache, disappointment, or closed doors.
A heart for the homeland for Valentine’s Day. What age is a good age for an international adoptee to visit his or her homeland? What things should be done to prepare? What places should be visited? What expectations should you have?
Originally posted on Delana's World:
When I was growing up there was a commercial and radio jingle for the candy bar Kit Kat that said something like — Give me a break, give me a break, break me off a piece of that Kit Kat bar. Well, I need a break. I need a…
I have learned that both the struggles (or afflictions) and the joys and blessings of this life come so that I can bless, comfort, and encourage others.
A decade of waiting and information and preparation still did not prepare me for the day-to-day realities of the first few years with an older adopted child. Yet, I still wish someone had pointed me to some of these resources earlier!
Three year anniversary of Nine Year Pregnancy….
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Holidays (particularly Christmas) can be some of the most difficult days during the “paper pregnancy” or waiting stage of Christmas, You hope…you pray…you wait for a miracle. Songs of kids waiting for a home for Christmas (as beautiful as the songs are) often bring tears to the eyes of the parents waiting.
“Thankfully God always sees a bigger picture…” Remember, God has not forgotten you!
How long is it reasonable to wait for something you want? Have we forgotten the value, wisdom, and lessons learned in persevering and waiting?
Praying, waiting, not giving up…how do we persevere when the answer is wait or not now?
“Cast your bread upon the waters, for after many days you will find it again.” Ecclesiastes 11:1 This verse reminds me of the need to keep pouring love into our children. The love we pour in will eventually pour out on others and come back to us as well.
My Paper Pregnancy Journal is a unique adoption journal with prompts, quotes, inspiration, and plenty of lined pages for you to write about your journey! Because a journey is worth…
“Paper Pregnancy” and Adoption. What might seem self-explanatory to some, might require explanation for others. Paper Pregnancy: having a child developing in the heart while completing a ton of paperwork, experiencing long waits and many hoops, and sometimes facing roadblocks or closed doors (read labor) in order for that child to be delivered into your arms. Want to know the first time that term was used online?
A friend of mine faced a failed adoption. She had not only seen pictures of her child, but she had held her in her arms, smelled her, cuddled her, rocked her. What she experienced emotionally could easily be compared to the grief faced in a mid-to-late term miscarriage. Recently, my newest grandson was born at 20 weeks, lived 34 minutes, then died. I understand grief and loss.
When on the adoption journey (or raising an adopted child) an iceberg provides a perfect picture of there being more than what you initially see. . . adjustments, meltdowns, behaviors, baggage, language learning, challenges.
Originally posted on barrentoblessed:
Dear Future Adoptive Parents, Hello. I’m not sure what to say except that I hope you want me as bad as I want you. I need you to need me. I know that sounds silly, coming from a kid and all, but if I were to be completely honest, I would tell…
On days and weeks when the waiting seems unbearable, times when adoption seems like an unreachable obsession, on rainy days and Mondays — some real things you can do to find the hope and strength to hang on.
“I can’t wait to be paper pregnant for nine years!” — said no adoptive parent ever. But the process of waiting may just be a very important part of the journey.
Clay Crosse and his wife Renee are no strangers to adoption. During our nearly decade-long journey of adoption, I faced a period of time of needing to surrender my desire for a daughter to the Lord.
Is the red tape of the adoption process making you wait? Sometimes hearing about how others survived the red tape provides strength for the journey.
Mothers’ Day can be an especially challenging time for those who have been waiting (and continue to wait) for a child . . . whether they are in the long journey of adopting a child or trying to get pregnant.
Mother’s Day often arrives packed with emotion. Our little princess breathes new meaning of Mother’s Day into our lives. On this special dayPrincess in waiting each year, I must recognize my daughter has a need I can never fill.
Mother’s Day can be a difficult day (season) for the woman waiting for a child. It can make the waiting of the paper pregnancy especially emotional this time of year.
This Beth Moore quote on God’s timing and my attitude is something I wish I had seen during our adoption waiting. Many times during our decade-long journey of waiting for our daughter I struggled with God’s timing. God is outside of time. He sees the big picture. Sometimes we only see in hindsight,,,